Archive for Teen Parents
As February 14 and Valentine’s Day quickly approaches, many teenagers find themselves in an incredibly vulnerable position.
For those in a relationship, Valentine’s Day brings up questions: What present do you get? Where do you go for dinner? Is it time for the relationship to progress physically?
Those who are not in a relationship see Valentine’s as the day where they are painfully aware they are alone with no flowers, date or sappy Instagram post in the near future.
Relationships are difficult and awkward at any age, but especially for teenagers who still haven’t figured themselves out, much less how to navigate a relationship with another searching teenager. Unfortunately, the relationships many of our teenagers are learning from on social media, TV and movies are unhealthy, abusive, manipulative and obsessive.
How can we show our teenagers what real healthy relationships look like?
In a world with competing depictions of love, we have to intentionally talk about and show teenagers what healthy, loving, realistic relationships look like. This by no means implies that you must have the perfect relationship yourself (we are shooting for realistic, remember?), but it does require some transparency.
I am reading a book called Leaders Eat Last by Simon Sinek. If you are looking for a good read this is a great one. In it he refers to a story while Ronald Reagan was President and was shot. On the way in for surgery he commented to the doctor that he hoped he was Republican. The doctor replied, “We’re all Republicans today, Mr. President.” This said by a man who was an outspoken Democrat.
Why was it okay on that day for him to not worry about political differences? Simple, because it was about saving a life. I would venture to say this was regardless of him being the president. The times I have been to the hospital I have never been asked what our political officiation is.
On a much lighter note, it is Cow Appreciation Day! A day that our family has decided it is very much worth it to dress up in cow spots with ears and tails for free food. In this case it really is free food. You can go all three meals dressed up and in some cases even win additional prizes.
It truly is an amazing day. I would add to this that no matter what your feelings about Chick-Fil-A as a company, it is a day you may well feel obliged to put those differences aside and go get your free food. One of the only times of the year the old adage “Something for nothing” really is true.
So why and when are people willing to do things like this? To drop the arguments, to forget their stance on “issues” and take a moment to let life just be.
I want to suggest a couple of things here and would love to hear your input as well.